Perfectionism, the desire to do everything perfectly, or the desire to be perfect, is at the core of the obsessive compulsive personality. But there's no such thing as perfect. That is the dilemma that plagues the obsessive compulsive. For some reason they have developed the impression that they could easily lose the love of their parents if they did not do things "right.
Daniel A. Bochner, Ph.D.
Mental Disorders • View topic - How to talk to someone with OCPD
The core symptoms of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder OCPD often lead to interpersonal difficulties. However, little research has explored interpersonal functioning in OCPD. The current study examined interpersonal problems, interpersonal sensitivities, empathy, and systemizing, the drive to analyze and derive underlying rules for systems, in a sample of 25 OCPD individuals, 25 individuals with comorbid OCPD and obsessive-compulsive disorder OCD , and 25 healthy controls. Overall, results suggest that there are interpersonal deficits associated with OCPD and the clinical implications of these deficits are discussed.
Interpersonal Functioning in Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder
From the outside looking in, things look perfect. They seem to be the model spouse, parent, friend, and most especially employee. And they have many rewards, honors, recognitions, and promotions to prove it. But like many people suffering from a personality disorder, things are not what they seem from the inside looking out.
Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder OCPD is a pervasive characterological disturbance involving one's generalized style and beliefs in the way one relates to themselves and the world. Persons with OCPD are typically deeply entrenched in their dysfunctional beliefs and genuinely see their way of functioning as the "correct" way. Their overall style of relating to the world around them is processed through their own strict standards. While generally their daily experience is such that "all is not well," they tend to be deeply committed to their own beliefs and patterns. The depth of ones belief that "my way is the correct way" makes them resistant to accepting the premise that it is in their best interest to let go of "truth owning.